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babel
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# Posted: 15 Aug 2006 16:00
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<!--QuoteBegin--kady+Aug. 08 2006,13:26--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (kady @ Aug. 08 2006,13:26)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin--><!--QuoteBegin--babel+Aug. 07 2006,15:29--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (babel @ Aug. 07 2006,15:29)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Food for thought Kady. <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--><br><br>And thankee for the nice words. <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--><!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>I like being nice to people I like!<br><br>That way, when I'm mean to those I don't, I'm that much scarier. <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/win.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--><br><br>Although, in real life, when I get mad and try to yell at people, they usually just laugh at me. No one ever takes me seriously. <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--><!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>More the fool them. In my dealings with you, Kady, you've demonstrated that you have the ability to make me laugh and also interest me in the points that you have to make. I learned years ago never to underestimate you.
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aeon
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# Posted: 15 Aug 2006 17:48
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I like the friends list.  I really do!  So: add me!  
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maxmeieriii
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# Posted: 1 Sep 2006 03:31
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I'm trying out the friends list myself, simply because, I'd like the people to see how diverse I am simply by seeing my friends, whether or not I know them in RL.
I do agree an opt-out would benefit the ones who want it, as that way the people who don't want to use it won't get flooded for requests to be added.
I sort of see this list as a "networking" deal. By that, I mean you could have people with various skills mesh together if someone needs help on a project or something. But then again, everyone is entitled to their own opinion.
Hopefully this will evolve over time and possibly become a tool where people can use it to their advantage. So far it looks good, although ranking a friend is hard, so I wouldn't really do that. But otherwise it seems good so far. 
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lythria_2005
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# Posted: 1 Sep 2006 06:35
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Hey,
I think Iain has done us all well by adding the friends list...
It is nice to see people voicing their own opinions about it but what we have to remember is the following...OTF is not Myspace...while people are saying that the friends list is "like myspace" I disagree entirley...
Basically, I have met a few people on here that I would consider friends to a certain extent...Aeon, Iain, Neeb and more...and they have made my time at OTF worth while...to be able to add them to an (un-ranked) friends list makes me feel pride in the fact that new members can see that friends are made here and that OTF isn't just another chat site, where people come and chat and then forget it all the moment they leave...
In my opinion, the friends list has prooven itself to be a reliable and informative way of promoting OTF to new members...and I have full faith in it...
While "ranking" friends is a bad idea...listing them is not...
Anyway...we all have our opinions...and I'm sure this topic shall go on for a while longer...
Thanks,
Damo
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polson
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# Posted: 2 Sep 2006 13:19
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Problem is, some people define "friend" differently. My definition of friend is highly exclusive, therefore a lot of people who have a lot broader definition of friend, can be easily offended by me not adding them. I don't add anybody anymore, and I removed all the ones I did add because I realized how extremely different I view the term "friend". There are very very very few people in my life I define as my friend, most everyone else is an aquaintence. If everyone defined friendship the same way, I can see the listing thing making sense, but we don't. We all perceive friendship in a different manner so it is easy to offend when you refuse someone.
Just because I like someone doesn't make them my friend. If you're a sanguine type personality, that won't make any sense to you.
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lima_
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# Posted: 2 Sep 2006 20:26
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<!--QuoteBegin--bria+April 30 2006,12:46--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (bria @ April 30 2006,12:46)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->In short – I think all of my friends know who they are, regardless of lists that they are or aren't on. Please, please don't take it personally if I decline your request – I'm routinely denying all of them. No one is going to appear on that list in my doss, not even my best friend. So it really isn't anything personal. I appreciate the sentiment behind the requests I have received, and I do care about you, but I'm going to express it in <i>my</i> way. <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/win.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--><br><br>Bria</font><!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Agreed. When I first found out about the feature I thought of it as an interesting idea. Then I realized that one could rank friends. And then I was told that some people were not using the feature and the reason behind this. And thus I deleted the friends that were on my list and am no longer accepting requests because I agree with their reasoning.<br><br>~*~Lima~*~
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lythria_2005
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# Posted: 3 Sep 2006 03:20
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<!--QuoteBegin--polson+Sep. 02 2006,13:19--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (polson @ Sep. 02 2006,13:19)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Problem is, some people define "friend" differently...<br><br>Just because I like someone doesn't make them my friend. If you're a sanguine type personality, that won't make any sense to you.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>I agree that different people have different standards when it comes to friends...and although this is a very relavent topic to bring up...<br><br>And I am the same. The closest person to a friend I have at OTF is Iain, and I believe that him, and such people as Aeon, Damoon, neeb...etc...may grow to become friends over the course of my OTF time...
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polson
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# Posted: 3 Sep 2006 08:33
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Damo, and see, I've been here for 9 yearsish and there are a lot of people I like, but if this was rl and we a lived in some community together, like a school or something, there would be very few people I would seek out. That's just the way I am. I don't throw around the term friend and unless you walked childhood in my shoes, it would be hard to understand why.
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babel
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# Posted: 16 Sep 2006 01:02
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<!--QuoteBegin--polson+Sep. 03 2006,08:33--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (polson @ Sep. 03 2006,08:33)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Damo, and see, I've been here for 9 yearsish and there are a lot of people I like, but if this was rl and we a lived in some community together, like a school or something, there would be very few people I would seek out. That's just the way I am. I don't throw around the term friend and unless you walked childhood in my shoes, it would be hard to understand why.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Pols, I have a lot of mates but few friends. A mate os someone you have a laugh and a joke with, a friend is a person who would hold your hand while you cried. At least, that is how it is for me. <br><br>I've bene very lucky to have made some genuine and warm friendships at OTF, and I don't need some 'friends' list to show it off. My friends know who they are, thanks very much. <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> <br><br>Incidentally, Pols, even though we seem to miss each other a lot lately I do count you as a friend and not a mate.
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kady
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# Posted: 20 Sep 2006 18:31
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"A friend is one soul living in two separate bodies..." I always liked that quote.
I can have many, many friends. People who you say the right things to and drink, laugh, and be merry with. People who you share a common interest with, but no real bond. Shopping buddies, workout buddies, drinking buddies...whatever you want to call them.
I think I understand where you all are coming from with this whole "friends list" thing and can really appreciate that. I like to be everyone's friend...but still, there's like less than a handful of people anywhere who I really trust.
There are few people I *turn to* when I get upset or scared or something like that....
Bleh...I post too much. 
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cutemacgyver
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# Posted: 5 Feb 2007 00:16
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<!--QuoteBegin--aeon+Aug. 15 2006,17:48--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (aeon @ Aug. 15 2006,17:48)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->I like the friends list. <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/haw.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--> I really do! <!--emo&:?--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/srp.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':?'><!--endemo--> So: add me! <!--emo&:o--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/ann.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':o'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:P--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/ton.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':P'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:D--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/haw.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':D'><!--endemo--><!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Well, i tried adding you to my friend list but it did not work <!--emo&:?--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/srp.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':?'><!--endemo--> Maybe i should have asked you first? Or maybe i just interpreted your message wrong <!--emo&:P--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/ton.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':P'><!--endemo--> No hard feelings.
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jadzia_jones1
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# Posted: 5 Feb 2007 07:35
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Please please STOP sending me these stupid request to add me to your friends list. It might be great for some, for me its a pain in the bamboozle. I have a very good email addy. Which get answered - I do have skype and MSN. But I very very really use them. Skype more so, as Anth and I speak to Hungary a lot.
Jadzia
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polson
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# Posted: 5 Feb 2007 09:35
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I never did respond to that.
Jeremy...likewise. 
And query to the friend list makers...has it accomplished what you wanted it to accomplish?
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