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jaquaia
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# Posted: 2 Oct 2006 14:37
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What they said ^
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kady
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# Posted: 2 Oct 2006 18:05
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<!--QuoteBegin--christena+Oct. 02 2006,13:59--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (christena @ Oct. 02 2006,13:59)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->I find it hard to lie to myself.. especially looking in the mirror.....<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Your logic is flawed. <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--><br><br>You are the most beautiful and amazing and unique *you* out there! Be proud of who you are! <br><br><br>Tell people, "I am beautiful and unique and amazing"....but they will only believe it if you believe it first, dear lady.<br><br>Then you will have 19-year-old boys who email you poems like this....<br><br><i>there is this girl melissa who is always on my mind<br>i think of her throughout the day i wish that she was mine<br>i try to get a chance with her to show her how i am<br>she says that im too young for her so i close up like a clam<br>i try to drop the subject of her givin me a date<br>but i dont want her mind to change and then it be too late<br>this poem may be pointless and i might as well not try<br>but if this makes her smile then it was definately worth the time<br>id try to make this longer but i dont know what to say<br>so this poems for u melissa hope u have a lovely day : )</i><br><br><br><br><br>He's going to kill me if he ever sees this.... <!--emo&:?--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/srp.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':?'><!--endemo-->
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babel
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# Posted: 2 Oct 2006 23:08
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<!--QuoteBegin--christena+Oct. 02 2006,13:59--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (christena @ Oct. 02 2006,13:59)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->I find it hard to lie to myself.. especially looking in the mirror.....<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>But, Chrissie, you twit, you *are* beautiful. In lots of ways, including physically. <br><br>And Kady is right, you should listen to her. <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/win.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo-->
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deanna
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# Posted: 3 Oct 2006 07:59
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I'm fighting the feelings of sad that have been oppressively pressing down on me as of late. I've found when I do things for myself it helps. And I don't just mean shopping or things selfish like that.
Today I made two doctors appointments and talked to my lawyer. Getting pro-active in my own life helps me weed through the crap in my head. It's when I feel so down about things, that I take a backseat and don't grab the steering wheel, that's when I feel it the most. The "sad" I mean.
And for the record, looking in the mirror has NEVER helped me and I doubt it ever will. It's one more reminder of my flaws.....I'd rather not think about them, thanks 
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bria
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# Posted: 3 Oct 2006 10:58
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This is what Mam tells people, and it does work; every day, before you go to bed or just after you get up, say "I love [your name here]." Out loud, preferably, but mouthing it or saying it in your head works, too.
In my opinion, getting hung up and focusing on physical appearance isn't really the way to go. It's superficial. Love is to do with so much more than someone's physical appearance, and that includes your own. It's about accepting someone for who they are, and the first person to start doing that with is yourself.
I know this sounds hollow when you're staring at the mirror at "sum kinda monster" - it does for me, anyway! But it doesn't matter. Say it anyway. People get so hung up on outward appearances and all that stuff. Being beautiful does not mean being happy. Loving, respecting and accepting yourself is much more important than being convinced that you're physically attractive - the latter comes hand in hand with the former, and also loses importance through the process.
I say - take charge, do what you want, be who you want to be, walk on imported air, be different, be free, be yourself, and to hell with anyone who disapproves. Which, by the way, they won't - people are scared witless of someone with self-confidence. Fact. 
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jaquaia
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# Posted: 3 Oct 2006 10:58
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<!--QuoteBegin--deanna+Oct. 03 2006,07:59--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (deanna @ Oct. 03 2006,07:59)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->I'm fighting the feelings of sad that have been oppressively pressing down on me as of late. I've found when I do things for myself it helps. And I don't just mean shopping or things selfish like that. <br><br>Today I made two doctors appointments and talked to my lawyer. Getting pro-active in my own life helps me weed through the crap in my head. It's when I feel so down about things, that I take a backseat and don't grab the steering wheel, that's when I feel it the most. The "sad" I mean. <br><br>And for the record, looking in the mirror has NEVER helped me and I doubt it ever will. It's one more reminder of my flaws.....I'd rather not think about them, thanks <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--><!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Doing things for myself helps me too, makes me feel like I'm regaining some sort of control over my life. I still have my low moments, in fact having one now, but looking at something I've acheived by myself makes me realise I'm not a failure. I need to make some adjustments to my behaviour before I'll be my old self, I sabotage myself too much, but things are getting easier and a lot of that is due to me making myself do things, well, that and a lovely, lovely man who makes me smile a lot <!--emo&:}--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/blu.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':}'><!--endemo--> <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> <br><br>And great stuff on makiing the appointments, hope it all goes well <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> *hugs*
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kady
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# Posted: 3 Oct 2006 19:42
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<!--QuoteBegin--bria+Oct. 03 2006,10:58--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (bria @ Oct. 03 2006,10:58)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin--><font color=#9999ff>This is what Mam tells people, and it does work; every day, before you go to bed or just after you get up, say "I love [your name here]." Out loud, preferably, but mouthing it or saying it in your head works, too.<br><br>In my opinion, getting hung up and focusing on physical appearance isn't really the way to go. It's superficial. Love is to do with so much more than someone's physical appearance, and that includes your own. It's about accepting someone for who they are, and the first person to start doing that with is yourself.<br><br>I know this sounds hollow when you're staring at the mirror at "sum kinda monster" - it does for me, anyway! But it doesn't matter. Say it anyway. People get so hung up on outward appearances and all that stuff. Being beautiful does not mean being happy. Loving, respecting and accepting yourself is much more important than being convinced that you're physically attractive - the latter comes hand in hand with the former, and also loses importance through the process.<br><br>I say - take charge, do what you want, be who you want to be, walk on imported air, be different, be free, be yourself, and to hell with anyone who disapproves. Which, by the way, they won't - people are scared witless of someone with self-confidence. Fact. <!--emo&;)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/win.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=';)'><!--endemo--></font><!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Bria's a friggin' genius! <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo--><br><br>She's the uber cool, philosophical and retrospective counterbalance to my shallowness....<br><br>I LURV BRIA!!<br><br>BRIA FOR CL 8!!! <br><br><br>And, for the record, she's the type of personality that makes people enjoy coming to OTF! We all need to be more like her! <!--emo&:?--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/srp.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':?'><!--endemo--><br><br>Good job being a role model!
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kady
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# Posted: 3 Oct 2006 20:00
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And for those of you who feel sad at this time of year especially, but it seems to linger about most of the time....
You could actually be suffering from what psychologists term SAD...or seasonal affective disorder.
A friend of mine did a research paper on this for a psychology class. She found that basically, we, as human beings, need so much direct exposure to certain types of rays produced by the sun. During the fall and winter months, we are cut off from a lot of these types of rays. Making regular sessions at your local tanning bed actually has the same affect, though. So, this gives you a reason to be shallow and tan all year round! (There are also special types of lights that work the same way and can be used within your home.)
Another thing that will affect your mood, believe it or not, is your diet. Most people, when feeling down or sad turn to carbohydrates as a comfort food. This makes you feel good while you're eating it, but ultimately it will affect you're mood in an adverse way. Sugars and alcohol do the same thing. Eating lean protiens will actually boost your mood! and anything raw is good to snack on...be it a fruit or vegetable!
Also, excercise! Beat the crap out of the heavy weight or speed bag! Go on, do it! Don't be scared!
Or, jump on that bike that's been sitting in your basement for eons and take it for a ride!
Exercising releases endorphins that pump through your bloodstream and create a natural high!
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darth_balco
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# Posted: 3 Oct 2006 21:02
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Taking nice snapspots of action moves on Madden 07 also makes me non-sad. If I had some recent ones uploaded, I would show you them. *nods*
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skevington
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# Posted: 4 Oct 2006 09:41
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Hmm... indeed, Kym is right, being pro-active does help. Today i went to the Doctor and got help for something that has been going on for a long time, apparently i got some form of Bulimia. But anyway, i feel a little better now. Thanks Kym, your post inspired me to do the same *hugs*
Dmitri
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jaquaia
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# Posted: 4 Oct 2006 10:53
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<!--QuoteBegin--skevington+Oct. 04 2006,09:41--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (skevington @ Oct. 04 2006,09:41)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Hmm... indeed, Kym is right, being pro-active does help. Today i went to the Doctor and got help for something that has been going on for a long time, apparently i got some form of Bulimia. But anyway, i feel a little better now. Thanks Kym, your post inspired me to do the same *hugs* <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> <br><br>Dmitri<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Glad to hear you'vre managed to get help Dmitri, you know how to reach me if you ever want a chat *hugs* <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
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deanna
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# Posted: 4 Oct 2006 16:54
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Dmitri Best of Luck with your recovery...Good job jumping in and seeing your doctor.
I go Thurs to one doctor and then on Nov 7th to another doctor. Hope is just around the bend now
Take care all and thanks for the words on encouragement!
If anyone see's Zild tell him I'm waiting for the webcam footage!!
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kady
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# Posted: 4 Oct 2006 19:09
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This is my motto when I start to lose faith in who I am.....maybe it will help someone else....
All women are princesses, it is our right.
Miss Minchin: Don't tell me you still fancy yourself a princess? Child, look around you! Or better yet, look in the mirror.
Sara Crewe: I am a princess. All girls are. Even if they live in tiny old attics. Even if they dress in rags, even if they aren't pretty, or smart, or young. They're still princesses. All of us. Didn't your father ever tell you that? Didn't he?
Read The Story: A Little Princess
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jaquaia
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# Posted: 5 Oct 2006 02:03
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<!--QuoteBegin--deanna+Oct. 04 2006,16:54--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (deanna @ Oct. 04 2006,16:54)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Dmitri <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> Best of Luck with your recovery...Good job jumping in and seeing your doctor. <br><br>I go Thurs to one doctor and then on Nov 7th to another doctor. Hope is just around the bend now <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> <br><br>Take care all and thanks for the words on encouragement! <br><br>If anyone see's Zild tell him I'm waiting for the webcam footage!!<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Good to hear that Deanna, hope it all goes well <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--><br><br>I'm going to be in trouble when I got back to see my doctor, I've not been taking my meds <!--emo&:(--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/sad.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':('><!--endemo-->
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deanna
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# Posted: 5 Oct 2006 06:22
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Thanks for all your support Jaq I really appreciate it!
I wrote about you and a previous comment over in my LJ. I just couldn't post all that here!
*hugs*
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jaquaia
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# Posted: 5 Oct 2006 11:40
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<!--QuoteBegin--deanna+Oct. 05 2006,06:22--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (deanna @ Oct. 05 2006,06:22)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->Thanks for all your support Jaq <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--> I really appreciate it! <br>I wrote about you and a previous comment over in my LJ. I just couldn't post all that here! <br><br>*hugs*<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>You are more then welcome Deanna <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo--><br><br>Mind if I add you? *hugs* I'm puma in case you're wondering <!--emo&:)--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/smi.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':)'><!--endemo-->
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deanna
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# Posted: 5 Oct 2006 19:34
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Ahha! I did not know this...:)
You've been friended!
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jaquaia
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# Posted: 6 Oct 2006 02:49
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Friended back
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david1
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# Posted: 6 Oct 2006 04:10
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To fight the feelings of sadness use Daz 
... wait ... z ... s ... das ... wrong place ... *strips semi-naked and acts like a bafoon* ... excelent plan...
Jokes aside , humour is the best way i fin to beat my sadness, that and a few hours on HL2 multiplayer \o/
XZ
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kady
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# Posted: 6 Oct 2006 13:37
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Sadness abounds everywhere....
We were notified of our layoff date today. We were given the rest of the day off with paid leave. They're planning on closing our center.
This is the first I've ever been part of a major layoff.
(And no, I don't mean with the FBI  )
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deanna
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# Posted: 6 Oct 2006 17:03
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=( I'm sorry Kady.
You're right, sadness abounds. I have a co-worker who spent today in tears. I went out to dinner last night with a very dear friend who broke down in tears...I myself can't seem to stop crying tonight.
It feels like "bad" is overtaking the good!
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darth_balco
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# Posted: 7 Oct 2006 00:22
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<!--QuoteBegin--kady+Oct. 06 2006,13:37--></span><table border="0" align="center" width="95%" cellpadding="3" cellspacing="1"><tr><td><b>Quote</b> (kady @ Oct. 06 2006,13:37)</td></tr><tr><td id="QUOTE"><!--QuoteEBegin-->We were notified of our layoff date today. We were given the rest of the day off with paid leave. They're planning on closing our center.<!--QuoteEnd--></td></tr></table><span id='postcolor'><!--QuoteEEnd--><br>Reminds me of my dad losing his job in the spring due to them outsourcing the plant to Mexico. <br><br>Just wanted to say that, anyway I feel one of the best ways to fight sadness is trying to think of better place to move to or just improving your image. <br><br>Some of you know that I just cut off my long hair completely Thursday and I felt nothing but good about it since I did it. In fact, it has inflated my ego to a point where I think "Wow, Holy Crud." but my point is that ever since I got this haircut, I've been feeling better about my appearance. Also, I plan on wanting to move up to St.Joesph to be closer to my friends that I grew up with and my family. Ever since the idea to move up there came into my head, I've been thinking about it everyday and it's been nothing but good thoughts. That and talking to my sister about something that wouldn't been possible 5 years ago, which is getting with her boyfriend and finding a house in St.Joe. Maybe i'm just babbling, but ever since I got this haircut and thinking about moving to St.Joe I've been thinking happy thoughts. I know that I never felt this way about myself in a long while, possbily ever. <br><br>I'll shush now. <!--emo&:P--><img src="http://www.outpost10f.com/iB_html/non-cgi/emoticons/ton.gif" border="0" valign="absmiddle" alt=':P'><!--endemo-->
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jaquaia
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# Posted: 7 Oct 2006 09:03
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sorry to hear that Kady
*hugs Deanna* days like those are terrible, all you want to do is hide away from the world, I know I did. I could sit and cry for hours and just want to stay in bed all day. I had to force myself to move in a morning but I still spent most of the day asleep, it was my escape, sleep meant no crying, no facing the world. When asleep I'm not depressed, simple as really. Keep strong, it'll pass
Balco, spread the happiness dude!
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